When someone shares advice based on parts of their life that they know to be true, you don't have to take it all to heart. Some of it might not apply to your situation right now. You don't have to make excuses for why it doesn't apply to you or why it worked for them but it won't work for you. There is no need to comment in the negative about something that worked positively for someone else.
Say for instance, a friend shares an article with you that they felt helped them in some way or just thought it gave some good advice on how to handle a situation that we all face in life. It is not necessary to reply to them in the negative, all of the ways that the advice in that article won't work for you. Maybe it won't all work for you and your situation. Not all advice applies to everyone in every situation or space in time. Maybe you are making excuses to stay stuck. That is a possibility, too. But it is true that you can take the salad bar approach and take what you need and leave the rest.
When you walk into a restaurant and order the salad bar, I doubt that you bitch and moan about all of the available offerings to add to your plate. You don't need to, you just take what you need and leave the rest. The same goes for life and the advice out there for us to partake in. There is no need to bitch and moan about what someone is graciously offering you based upon what's worked for them. You take what you need and leave the rest for someone else who needs it and wants it.
Just because it won't work for you, for whatever reasons or excuses you might give, that doesn't make it invalid or unnecessary. It doesn't mean it won't be valuable to someone else. The salad bar approach to life is the higher road. It leaves you to own responsibility for your own life and lets others do the same. It lets us partake in what works for us, right now, and leaves the rest for others to choose from. Not everyone likes the same salad fixings.
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